These days people can and do talk about sex more easily than ever before. Nevertheless, when it comes to the subject of sex during pregnancy, a little of the old stand-offishness seems to persist. Women are often reluctant to bring up the question with their obstetricians. Worse, both husbands and wives frequently keep their innermost fears and feelings to themselves.
Particularly if this is your first child, your pregnancy will probably be a time of erratic mood swings... for you and your husband too. You may alternately feel fatigued... exhilarated... content... depressed, eager... fearful, motherly and beautiful... uncomfortable and unattractive. He on the otherhand may range from feeling proud of having fathered a child, to anxious about the new financial responsibilities, from protective toward you and the growing fetus to jealous of your new preoccupation.
All these mood changes will inturn have their changing effect on your attitudes toward each other... and on your desire for sex. The most important thing is not what you feel, nor how silly you think it is, but that you share those feelings with each other. In this way you can make necessary adjustments and accomodations for a sexual relationship that continues to be as fulfilling as possible for both of you. |
